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Brutal Honesty -or- NVC -or- Talking Nice?
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Do you prefer:
- Speech that protects feelings, at the expense of authenticity;
- Truth delivered with compassion; or
- Blunt truth that may incorporate judgement, diagnoses, evaluation, blame, guilt, or shame?
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"Language of Compassionate Responsibility"
or "Nonviolent Communication" or
"Compassionate Communication"
has the following:
POTENTIAL POSITIVES:
- More freedom
- Increased connection
- Practice of authenticity
- Easier to practice because "I know me"
- Increased trust
- Increased respect
- Increased understanding of self and others
POTENTIAL NEGATIVES:
- Immediate conflict
- Hurt feelings
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"Talking Nice"
has the following:
POTENTIAL POSITIVES:
- Temporary peace
- Temporary comfort
- Potential efficiency*
POTENTIAL NEGATIVES:
- Guilt
- Trust loss
- Energy/time cost from the sacrifice
- Harder because we don't read minds
- Decreased respect
- Resentment
*There may be efficiency in using less words. However, the shallow nature of this type of communication undercuts efficiency in the long term because underlying issues are ignored. |
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